Accessories

Oh Please
Most of this book is devoted to how to cope with, coddle, make excuses for and accomodate the BPD in your life, using techniques from AA, the usual pop-psych bromides and advice from Dr. Susan Forward, a radio talk show shrink with specious credentials. Most of the examples of BPDs cited in this book are female, perhaps because females are more likely to seek treatment. On the other hand most of the people sent to anger management classes or incarcerated for abuse are males with BPD who don't voluntarily seek treatment. BPD is a personality disorder that is generally considered to be intractable. This book presents a distorted, rosy view of the possibility of improvement and, after telling the "non-BP" not to play therapist, then goes on to tell the non-BP that if they just handle the BP correctly all will be well, thereby making them responsible. The best advice you can give a person (usually a woman) living with a person with BPD (usually a man) is to protect herself and her children by leaving.

Most valuable book for understanding BPD
Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care about Has Borderline Personality DisorderThis is the most important and valuable book for parents and friends of borderline personality disorder victims. BPD is an obscene illness that defies logic and common sense. The authors do a superb job of introducing the reader to the illness, walking through its components and syndromes, and establishing effective strategies to deal with the disease. If you follow the advice, you will no longer be a co-dependent, lashed to the bizarre behavior of the victim, responding inappropriately and dangerously. You will get your life back and actually help the victim by breaking unhealthy bonds and establishing necessary tough boundaries. This is especially important for parents, moreso for mothers because of nature's bonding ways. The authors have hit many home runs with this foundational effort.

Stop Walking on Eggshells
Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care about Has Borderline Personality Disorder A must read for those of us who must learn to adapt, overcome and improvise. Recommend highly.

Care for you, too
It deals with extraordinarily complex issues in a way that makes them understandable, and can lead the reader to take real productive action. I must say I am amazed at the insights from this book. I also recommend other book on this topic is: I Love You. Now What?: Falling in Love is a Mystery, Keeping It Isn't

Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care about Has Borderline Personality Disorder
The book is a revelation - it offers practical knowledge and advice in plain english. it helps you to understand what it going on in the life of your loved one and how to deal with the rollercoaster that you end up on when living with this person. I highly recommend this book.