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marvellous
i think the world would change if more read this book. if you love your baby and read this... you will surely learn to let your love flow naturally and that everyone feels easyier, more fulfilled more loving, with this attempt. that you could be loving and a good person at nighttimes too.

Good, but redundant
Good information, but much of the same info is provided verbatim in the Sears' Baby Book.

Answered lots of questions!
This book answered a lot of questions for me and why our "high needs" baby would not go to sleep. It has helped me understand our baby a lot better. Dr. Sears explains why it is so difficult for a mother to let her baby "cry it out" and helped my husband to understand the physical and emotional reactions that I have when our baby cries.

Whose in control? Parent or baby?
The main issue is the overlying philosophy of the author and his family that the baby basically decides what works best. We think mom and dad should decide whats best for our family not the baby.

Most of the advice in this book comes down to allowing your baby to sleep with you or not. In this book the author tries to convince you it's ok for the baby to sleep with you all the time until they are around 3-4, then separate them into their own room. Good luck! Good luck separating the baby after you have allowed it to get used to being with you every night for the past 3 years. Also, good luck having any intimate time with your spouse for the next 3 years!

We think the philosophy is misguided both in common sense and scripturally. Our philosophy and the way we have always been taught through many instances in the Bible is mom and dad's relationship comes first, children are second. This is not the philosophy I came to understand in this book.

In summary, from reading this book and others by this author and his wife, letting the baby sleep with the parents was the wifes idea and the husband had to play along, so they adopted this as the best philosophy. We don't agree.

We feel the separation between child and parent needs to happen early for many reasons. However, this is not the philosophy of this book or it's author.

Not helpful unless you are breastfeeding
This book is helpful for breastfeeding moms, but if you want to do attachment parenting and for whatever reason are not breastfeeding, this book will probably be a big disappointment. The two main suggestions are that you nurse your baby to soothe him/her and you let him/her sleep in your bed. So if you are formula feeding, you probably will find this book not full of solutions for you.

Dr. Sears, please note that not every mother is a birth mother and not every mother has a baby that is able to breastfeed and not every mother breastfeeds, but those mothers still love their babies and want them to have peaceful sleep.