Product Details
- Author: John Gray
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- Binding: Paperback
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- Dewey Decimal Number: 306.7
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- EAN: 9780060930271
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- ISBN: 0060930276
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- Label: Harper Paperbacks
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- Manufacturer: Harper Paperbacks
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- Number of Items: 1
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- Number of Pages: 352
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- Product Group: Book
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- Publication Date: 2002-06-15
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- Publisher: Harper Paperbacks
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- Release Date: 2002-06-18
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- Studio: Harper Paperbacks
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- Title: Mars and Venus Starting Over: A Practical Guide for Finding Love Again After a Painful Breakup, Divorce, or the Loss of a Loved One
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Product Description: A breakup, divorce, or loss of a loved one isn't just the end of your relationship with that person. It's a continuation of every feeling of abandonment you've ever suffered. It's the loss of a system of approval you'd come to depend on. The struggle, as Gray points out in Starting Over, isn't just to find a new partner, but to get over those feelings of abandonment or loss or anger or whatever else gets dredged up by the end of a relationship. Perhaps the book's most crucial chapter posits that the best way to get over the loss of love is to focus on the "love" more than the "loss." That may seem impossible, especially if the bum took off with your best friend, your life savings, and your Lyle Lovett CDs, but Gray didn't get to be a household name because the advice in his Venus and Mars books doesn't work. Remembering only the bad parts, Gray says, leaves you with an important part of your emotional being closed to new business. As for the Venus and Mars stuff, that comes in the second half of the book, when Gray looks at how men and women start new relationships from different points of view, with different priorities (a man might want to have fun with no strings attached; a woman might carry with her a lengthy list of requirements for her next partner, a list that excludes virtually all available men). If you've never read Gray's work before, you have to be prepared to check your cynicism at the door. This is earnest stuff, but it's also based on decades of experience counseling clients. He's not one of those photogenic, nine-times-divorced shrinklets who's telling you how to conduct your relationships without any real clue of what makes love last. This is the real package: nothing glib, nothing quick and easy, nothing you could've figured out from a "Love Is..." cartoon.
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Customer Reviews
A MUST for anyone who has a broken heart!
John Gray's brilliance introduces the grieving process in a manner that feels right during heartbreak. His caring nature comes through in this book and is a great structure to grab onto when a relationship has ended in your life.
His brilliance and compassion is evident in this book and I hope you use it during a tough time for yourself. I have learned so much about myself after a death of a loved one. In addition, I learned how to support others at their time of need.
Strong and supportive read!
Merna Throne
Pocket of Pearls: A 30-day pocket workbook to start hearing a softer voice inside of you!
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Is it possible to die from a broken heart?
His brother had the right idea! I'm getting so sick of being stabbed in the back all the time! And by people I thought I could depend upon! And the funny part is...if the same thing happened to them, they'd be screaming bloody murder! DOESN'T ANYBODY AT LEAST "TRY" TO PRACTICE THE GOLDEN RULE ANYMORE?!? WHAT'S SO DAMN HARD ABOUT THAT?!?
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Thank you for a great book, Dr. Gray!
I think that this book would be a big help for anyone who's suffered a loss in their life. If you never mourn and recover from your losses in a healthy way, you will remain stuck and repeat the same unhealthy patterns over and over again.
What's great about this book is that you are pretty much free to skip around and read the parts that pertain to your personal situation. But I recommend going back and reading all of it because most of us have a lot of learn about ourselves...and the opposite sex. A+ for John Gray, PhD. I will definitely buy more of his books.
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Much needed insight
This book is insightfully written and is valuable in making relationships (of all kinds, not just romantic ones)work when dealing with someone who has experience the trauma of relationship loss. John Gray's entire series help take the sting out of interpersonal relationships by shining light on reactions that are not actually personal in intent but common across most people. This makes it easier to get along with other people and to avoid some basic male-female relating mistakes.
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Dr. Gray in another of his Mars Venus books
These books are getting old. Same story as the last... same story as the next. Easiest way to get over someone is to get under someone ELSE!
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